“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
— Philippians 2:3-4
I’m kind of a hobby guy, maybe you can relate. There are a lot of things I like to do. And there are even more things I would get into if I had extra time and money.
Sadly, a lot of these hobbies would only be a “me” thing. I’m wandering off (or checking something out) by myself, leaving my wife and kids wondering where I am and wishing they could join me.
Thankfully, my sweet wife keeps my feet on the ground and my head in the game. She’s not afraid to lovingly tell me when I’m turning into Hobby Guy (AKA Mr. Not-Home) again. This is definitely an incredible blessing to both our family and me. Wives, take note of this. If you want your Hobby Hubby around more, you need to tell him that! However, do it gently. Because most of us need some time to realize our potential selfishness. And then, hopefully, repent accordingly. Husbands, pay special attention to your wife in these conversations. Listen well and repent accordingly. “…Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way…” (1 Peter 3:7).
This doesn’t mean forsaking the things we like to do forever. Perhaps it just means adapting a little. It’s such a blessing when we involve our families in what we’re doing. You like to ski, fish, hike, golf, work out, mountain bike, etc.? Awesome, simply involve the family!
Involve The Family
Teach them what you can and see if they like it, too. However, don’t be surprised when they end up better at it than you (true story)! Even if they don’t like it, I guarantee they’ll enjoy spending time with you.
Maybe, like me, you like to drive hundreds of miles to pick up obscure, outdated guitar amps? Take a kid with you, buy some weird food on the way, and also stop to see some sights. You’ll both remember it forever (another true story).
You only have so much time with your kids. Why wouldn’t you want to make it a priority to raise them and bring them up in the ways of the Lord? “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children…” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7).
Likewise, you only have so much time with your wife. Why wouldn’t you want to strengthen your marriage and enjoy each other? “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25).
Don’t let people remember you as the hobby guy who was always gone doing your own thing alone — Mr. Not-Home. Let them always remember you for loving Jesus, loving your family, and for introducing them to all their favorite hobbies!
Love the Lord, love your family, but only really like your hobbies. “Look carefully then how you walk… making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15,16).
Adapting,
Billy
AKA Mr. At-Home
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